No One Dies From Divorce:

How to Survive and Thrive When Your Marriage Ends

It may not kill you, but in the thick of it, divorce can certainly test your will to live. Divorce is the death of a marriage, and as with any death, you’ll need the time, space, and proper tools to grieve it, get through it, and move on.

Jill Coil, esq., has spent the last thirteen years guiding families through the process of divorce as a family law attorney. She knows the toll it can take, but she also recognizes the growth and positivity that divorce can stimulate when it’s time for two people to part ways. In this book, Jill condenses her years of experience to help readers learn:

– When a marriage can be saved, and when it can’t

         – When and how to hire an attorney

         – How to navigate the process with your family

         – How to reclaim your self-worth outside of marriage

         – How to forge a beautiful, better path after divorce

This practical yet deeply personal handbook will change your outlook on one of life’s biggest obstacles and give you the advice and strategies you need to grow from the experience and flourish in your new future.

Current Projects

Part of being a leading lady requires constantly creating material that will help individuals empower themselves and those around them.

The Moxie Cycle

Improvement starts with you – I’ve developed the Moxie Cycle to help you help yourself. Learn more about it in your copy of No One Dies From Divorce.

Divorce Guide

Click Here to download the Complete Divorce Guide for men and women. This guide will walk you through the process of divorce to ensure that you take the necessary steps to survive and thrive.

Digital Guidance

I’m always developing new ways to help the community . Come join me on Clubhouse.

Testimonials

“A must-read for anyone who is navigating or has been through a divorce. The book is insightful, informative, and moving. Jill Coil, Esq. writes with a clear understanding of how you can survive your divorce and reclaim your self-worth.  From deciding whether to leave your marriage to learning how to co-parent and talk to your children, this book covers it all with sound and compassionate advice.  This is the self-help book of the year for divorced individuals.”

Dr. Sue Cornbluth

International Parenting Expert in High Conflict Divorce & Parental Alienation, TV & Radio Host

“This book will make you stronger and more capable even when you’re going through a divorce! It is filled with encouraging words, personal examples (men’s and women’s), lists of considerations, cautions of what not to do, and numerous tips for what to do. It helps you ask all the right questions and helps you to be honest with yourself while also patient with yourself. Written by a divorce attorney who has seen it all, it feels like she’s talking directly to you and giving you your own personal pep talk.”

Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

Developer of the New Ways for Families® me & Author of , Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone With Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

“Weaving in personal experiences as well as client reflections, Jill brings heart, soul, and smarts to every page. She breaks down the divorce decision tree and process in a clear, accessible way that’s easy to follow.  Each page hands the reader essential reflections to get through one of life’s most difficult transitions. Whether you’re just contemplating divorce or in the midst of the process, No One Dies from Divorce is a keeper.”

Gabrielle Hartley, Esq.

Online divorce mediator & Author of , Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate

“Reading this book will lead you to a better life in general, whether you decide to stay married or to part ways. Along with the practical information you can implement right away—including good advice for those married to narcissists—Jill’s personal stories and those of her clients add richness and relatability to the book.”

Randi Kreger

Coauthor of , Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder and Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

“Tragically, we seldom read a book on marriage until our relationship is going south, and we don’t seek legal counsel with a divorce until it gets ugly. Wait no longer! In this masterpiece, Jill shares her wisdom from both sides of the relationship, having butted up to the edge of divorcing her husband, yet resolving the issues together, while teaching her time-tested solutions through years of counseling those filing for divorce as an attorney. Guaranteed, this book can help you save your marriage or end it amicably, giving you and your kids the tools to make happily-ever-after a day at a time proposition!”

Dan Clark

Hall of Fame Speaker & New York Times Best Selling Author of, The Art of Significance

“Having gone through a divorce myself—while battling cancer—I can attest to the real feelings of loneliness and despair you feel. Jill’s legal experience, together with her empathy and personal relationship experience, bring forth well-rounded, practical, and inspiring tips and advice.”

Barbara Majeski

TV personality and lifestyle expert, host of the “Baring It All” Podcast

Frequently Asked Questions

Learn More About My Books!

How do I find happiness after divorcing my partner?

Is your happiness dependent on someone else? If your answer is yes, then that could be the problem. I have found in life that true happiness can only come from learning to love oneself first. Find your inner love and you control your happiness.

Am I in a healthy relationship?

Here are some questions I would be asking myself:

  1. Does my partner enhance my happiness? 
  2. Do they encourage me to grow?  
  3. Am I providing a healthy environment for my partner?  

Ultimately, only you can decide what is and what is not healthy for you.

How do I deal with a Narcissist?

It is all about the power for a Narcissist. In most situations, taking the power away is the only option. Here are some simple recommendations: 

  1. Do not feed the ego,
  2. Do not take responsibility for their emotions, 
  3. Do not use ultimatums,
  4. Never give any negative attention to them in any way. 

Simply put, DO NOT sink to their level.

How do I move on after a divorce?

Divorce will change you, but you decide whether it changes you for the better or for the worse. In Chapter 10, I discuss in detail how to find yourself and move on. Every one of us can not only survive but thrive!

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No One Dies From Divorce:

How to Survive and Thrive When Your Marriage Ends

It may not kill you, but in the thick of it, divorce can certainly test your will to live. Divorce is the death of a marriage, and as with any death, you’ll need the time, space, and proper tools to grieve it, get through it, and move on.

Jill Coil, esq., has spent the last thirteen years guiding families through the process of divorce as a family law attorney. She knows the toll it can take, but she also recognizes the growth and positivity that divorce can stimulate when it’s time for two people to part ways. In this book, Jill condenses her years of experience to help readers learn:

– When a marriage can be saved, and when it can’t

– When and how to hire an attorney

– How to navigate the process with your family

– How to reclaim your self-worth outside of marriage

– How to forge a beautiful, better path after divorce

This practical yet deeply personal handbook will change your outlook on one of life’s biggest obstacles and give you the advice and strategies you need to grow from the experience and flourish in your new future.

Current Projects

Part of being a leading lady requires constantly creating material that will help individuals empower themselves and those around them.

The Moxie Cycle

Improvement starts with you – I’ve developed the Moxie Cycle to help you help yourself. Learn more about it in your copy of No One Dies From Divorce.

Divorce Guide

Click Here to download the Complete Divorce Guide for men and women. This guide will walk you through the process of divorce to ensure that you take the necessary steps to survive and thrive.

Digital Guidance

I’m always developing new ways to help the community . Come join me on Clubhouse.

Testimonials

DR. SUE CORNBLUTH - International Parenting Expert in High Conflict Divorce & Parental Alienation, TV & Radio Host

“A must-read for anyone who is navigating or has been through a divorce. The book is insightful, informative, and moving. Jill Coil, Esq. writes with a clear understanding of how you can survive your divorce and reclaim your self-worth.  From deciding whether to leave your marriage to learning how to co-parent and talk to your children, this book covers it all with sound and compassionate advice.  This is the self-help book of the year for divorced individuals.”

BILL EDDY, LCSW, ESQ. - Developer of the New Ways for Families® me & Author of Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone With Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

“This book will make you stronger and more capable even when you’re going through a divorce! It is filled with encouraging words, personal examples (men’s and women’s), lists of considerations, cautions of what not to do, and numerous tips for what to do. It helps you ask all the right questions and helps you to be honest with yourself while also patient with yourself. Written by a divorce attorney who has seen it all, it feels like she’s talking directly to you and giving you your own personal pep talk.”

RANDI KREGER Coauthor of , Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder and Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

“Reading this book will lead you to a better life in general, whether you decide to stay married or to part ways. Along with the practical information you can implement right away—including good advice for those married to narcissists—Jill’s personal stories and those of her clients add richness and relatability to the book.”

DAN CLARK Hall of Fame Speaker & New York Times Best Selling Author of The Art of Significance

“Tragically, we seldom read a book on marriage until our relationship is going south, and we don’t seek legal counsel with a divorce until it gets ugly. Wait no longer! In this masterpiece, Jill shares her wisdom from both sides of the relationship, having butted up to the edge of divorcing her husband, yet resolving the issues together, while teaching her time-tested solutions through years of counseling those filing for divorce as an attorney. Guaranteed, this book can help you save your marriage or end it amicably, giving you and your kids the tools to make happily-ever-after a day at a time proposition!”

GABRIELLE HARTLEY, ESQ. Online divorce mediator & Author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate

“Weaving in personal experiences as well as client reflections, Jill brings heart, soul, and smarts to every page. She breaks down the divorce decision tree and process in a clear, accessible way that’s easy to follow.  Each page hands the reader essential reflections to get through one of life’s most difficult transitions. Whether you’re just contemplating divorce or in the midst of the process, No One Dies from Divorce is a keeper.”

BARBARA MAJESKI - TV personality and lifestyle expert, host of the “Baring It All” Podcast

“Having gone through a divorce myself—while battling cancer—I can attest to the real feelings of loneliness and despair you feel. Jill’s legal experience, together with her empathy and personal relationship experience, bring forth well-rounded, practical, and inspiring tips and advice.”

Frequently Asked Questions

Learn More About My Books!

How do I find happiness after divorcing my partner?

Is your happiness dependent on someone else? If your answer is yes, then that could be the problem. I have found in life that true happiness can only come from learning to love oneself first. Find your inner love and you control your happiness.

Am I in a healthy relationship?

Here are some questions I would be asking myself:

  1. Does my partner enhance my happiness? 
  2. Do they encourage me to grow?  
  3. Am I providing a healthy environment for my partner?  

Ultimately, only you can decide what is and what is not healthy for you.

How do I deal with a Narcissist?

It is all about the power for a Narcissist. In most situations, taking the power away is the only option. Here are some simple recommendations: 

  1. Do not feed the ego,
  2. Do not take responsibility for their emotions, 
  3. Do not use ultimatums,
  4. Never give any negative attention to them in any way. 

Simply put, DO NOT sink to their level.

How do I move on after a divorce?

Divorce will change you, but you decide whether it changes you for the better or for the worse. In Chapter 10, I discuss in detail how to find yourself and move on. Every one of us can not only survive but thrive!

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