Jill L. Coil

Utah’s Leading lady

About the Author

Jill L. Coil, Esq., is a divorce attorney licensed in both Texas and Utah. She has created and grown one of the largest family law firms in the state of Utah. She is also a motivational speaker and is on a mission to ensure that people feel empowered in their own lives to understand their self-worth and then be able to empower others. This is her first book.

Jill L. Coil, Esq., is a divorce attorney licensed in both Texas and Utah. She has created and grown one of the largest family law firms in the state of Utah. She has spent the last decade recognizing the support needed for people going through divorce and studying best ways to do that, which is why she also founded the legal tech company, SimpleEndingTM, which provides an alternative route to creating quality divorce documents without needing to retain an attorney. 

Jill takes pride in giving back and donates her time through the State Bar and takes on Guardian Ad Litem cases, pro bono. She also has a college scholarship and mentorship programs through her nonprofit, the Coil Foundation. She is a motivational speaker and is on a mission to ensure that people feel empowered in their own lives to understand their self-worth and then be able to empower others. This is her first book. 

Jill lives in Salt Lake City, Utah, with her husband, Ryan, and their four children, Lexi, Max, Paxton, and Moxie.

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ABOUT JILL'S BOOK

It may not kill you, but in the thick of it, divorce can certainly test your will to live. Divorce is the death of a marriage, and as with any death, you’ll need the time, space, and proper tools to grieve it, get through it, and move on.

Jill Coil, esq., has spent the last thirteen years guiding families through the process of divorce as a family law attorney. She knows the toll it can take, but she also recognizes the growth and positivity that divorce can stimulate when it’s time for two people to part ways. In this book, Jill condenses her years of experience to help readers learn:

         – When a marriage can be saved, and when it can’t

         – When and how to hire an attorney

         – How to navigate the process with your family

         – How to reclaim your self-worth outside of marriage

         – How to forge a beautiful, better path after divorce

This practical yet deeply personal handbook will change your outlook on one of life’s biggest obstacles and give you the advice and strategies you need to grow from the experience and flourish in your new future.

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Testimonials

“A must-read for anyone who is navigating or has been through a divorce. The book is insightful, informative, and moving. Jill Coil, Esq. writes with a clear understanding of how you can survive your divorce and reclaim your self-worth.  From deciding whether to leave your marriage to learning how to co-parent and talk to your children, this book covers it all with sound and compassionate advice.  This is the self-help book of the year for divorced individuals.”

Dr. Sue Cornbluth

International Parenting Expert in High Conflict Divorce & Parental Alienation, TV & Radio Host

“This book will make you stronger and more capable even when you’re going through a divorce! It is filled with encouraging words, personal examples (men’s and women’s), lists of considerations, cautions of what not to do, and numerous tips for what to do. It helps you ask all the right questions and helps you to be honest with yourself while also patient with yourself. Written by a divorce attorney who has seen it all, it feels like she’s talking directly to you and giving you your own personal pep talk.”

Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

Developer of the New Ways for Families® me & Author of , Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone With Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

“Weaving in personal experiences as well as client reflections, Jill brings heart, soul, and smarts to every page. She breaks down the divorce decision tree and process in a clear, accessible way that’s easy to follow.  Each page hands the reader essential reflections to get through one of life’s most difficult transitions. Whether you’re just contemplating divorce or in the midst of the process, No One Dies from Divorce is a keeper.”

Gabrielle Hartley, Esq.

Online divorce mediator & Author of , Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate

“Reading this book will lead you to a better life in general, whether you decide to stay married or to part ways. Along with the practical information you can implement right away—including good advice for those married to narcissists—Jill’s personal stories and those of her clients add richness and relatability to the book.”

Randi Kreger

Coauthor of , Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder and Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

“Tragically, we seldom read a book on marriage until our relationship is going south, and we don’t seek legal counsel with a divorce until it gets ugly. Wait no longer! In this masterpiece, Jill shares her wisdom from both sides of the relationship, having butted up to the edge of divorcing her husband, yet resolving the issues together, while teaching her time-tested solutions through years of counseling those filing for divorce as an attorney. Guaranteed, this book can help you save your marriage or end it amicably, giving you and your kids the tools to make happily-ever-after a day at a time proposition!”

Dan Clark

Hall of Fame Speaker & New York Times Best Selling Author of, The Art of Significance

“Having gone through a divorce myself—while battling cancer—I can attest to the real feelings of loneliness and despair you feel. Jill’s legal experience, together with her empathy and personal relationship experience, bring forth well-rounded, practical, and inspiring tips and advice.”

Barbara Majeski

TV personality and lifestyle expert, host of the “Baring It All” Podcast

Awards & Titles

Courage, Compassion and Connection

2021 Who’s Who in America
2020 -2021 Expertise: Best Divorce Lawyers in Sandy, UT
2015-2021 Legal Elite
2015-2021 Super Lawyers
2015-2016 10 best client satisfaction; American Institute of Family Law Attorneys
2016 10 Best Female Attorneys; American Institute of Family Law Attorneys
BS in Political Science from BYU
Superb: Top Divorce Attorney 10.0 Avvo rating
Executive producer of a new docuseries “No One Dies from Divorce”
Feature/article Women in Law 2016 in Attorney at Law Magazine
2016 Legal Elite: Up and Coming Utah Business
2015-2019 Avvo Client's Choice Award
Lead Counsel Rated
JD from Texas Southern University

Frequently Asked Questions

Learn More About My Books!

How do I find happiness after divorcing my partner?

The first thing is realizing that your partner was never the key to your happiness.  So many times we think that our partner is going to make us happy.  But this is just not true.  Happiness comes within us individually.  And it is our job to ensure that we find our own happiness.  Once you are complete and have joy then a partner can just elevate that happiness.  Therefore, once you are separated from your partner it is time to reevaluate you and what makes you happy.  What have you been missing?  What do you need for you?  

The second thing is that you have to realize that it’s not selfish and/or wrong during a breakup to start doing something for you.  During marriage we often get caught in the rut of taking care of everyone else’s needs and therefore, forgetting about your own needs and wants.  Divorcing your partner is the perfect time to start putting yourself first.  To start daydreaming again.  To figure out your needs and wants and then to act upon them.  Divorce is hard but it’s the perfect time to pivot because a better version of yourself than you ever imagined.  

“By understanding what happiness is, we are better able to  achieve that state of happiness. Even in times of stress and tragedy we can adapt and find happiness. Remember, this does not mean we will bounce back and find  happiness immediately. All the studies show that it takes time and actual effort. But even after divorce we are able to eventually adapt  and find that state of happiness again. And in fact, sometimes after  divorce we are able to find a high level of happiness that we never  could achieve in our marriage.”

Am I in a healthy relationship?

Here are some questions I would be asking myself in determining whether I am in a healthy relationship:  

  1.   Does my partner enhance my happiness?
  2.   Do they encourage me to grow? 
  3.   Am I providing a healthy environment for my partner? 
  4. Do we not even care enough to fight anymore?  

Ultimately, only you can decide what is and what is not healthy for you. If your answer to these questions were no.  You should reevaluate and decide what you can do to enhance your relationship because at this point you are stuck.  And when you are stuck you start to dwindle and die.  

How do I deal with a Narcissist?

It is all about the power for a Narcissist. In most situations, taking the power away is the only option. Here are some simple recommendations:

  1.   Do not feed the ego,
  2.   Do not take responsibility for their emotions,
  3.   Do not use ultimatums,
  4.   Never give any negative attention to them in any way. Simply put, DO NOT sink to their level. 
How do I move on after a divorce?

Divorce will change you, but you decide whether it changes you for the better or for the worse. In Chapter 10, I discuss in detail how to find yourself and move on. Every one of us can not only survive but thrive through a divorce.  Take the opportunity for you to pivot and become a better version of yourself. 

Jill L. Coil

Utah’s Leading lady

About the Author

Jill L. Coil, Esq., is a divorce attorney licensed in both Texas and Utah. She has created and grown one of the largest family law firms in the state of Utah. She is also a motivational speaker and is on a mission to ensure that people feel empowered in their own lives to understand their self-worth and then be able to empower others. This is her first book.

Jill L. Coil, Esq., is a divorce attorney licensed in both Texas and Utah. She has created and grown one of the largest family law firms in the state of Utah. She has spent the last decade recognizing the support needed for people going through divorce and studying best ways to do that, which is why she also founded the legal tech company, SimpleEndingTM, which provides an alternative route to creating quality divorce documents without needing to retain an attorney. 

Jill takes pride in giving back and donates her time through the State Bar and takes on Guardian Ad Litem cases, pro bono. She also has a college scholarship and mentorship programs through her nonprofit, the Coil Foundation. She is a motivational speaker and is on a mission to ensure that people feel empowered in their own lives to understand their self-worth and then be able to empower others. This is her first book. 

Jill lives in Salt Lake City, Utah, with her husband, Ryan, and their four children, Lexi, Max, Paxton, and Moxie.

Jill’s Images

ABOUT JILL'S BOOK

It may not kill you, but in the thick of it, divorce can certainly test your will to live. Divorce is the death of a marriage, and as with any death, you’ll need the time, space, and proper tools to grieve it, get through it, and move on.

Jill Coil, esq., has spent the last thirteen years guiding families through the process of divorce as a family law attorney. She knows the toll it can take, but she also recognizes the growth and positivity that divorce can stimulate when it’s time for two people to part ways. In this book, Jill condenses her years of experience to help readers learn:

– When a marriage can be saved, and when it can’t

– When and how to hire an attorney

– How to navigate the process with your family

– How to reclaim your self-worth outside of marriage

– How to forge a beautiful, better path after divorce

This practical yet deeply personal handbook will change your outlook on one of life’s biggest obstacles and give you the advice and strategies you need to grow from the experience and flourish in your new future.

FREE CHAPTER DOWNLOAD

Send download link to:

Testimonials

DR. SUE CORNBLUTH - International Parenting Expert in High Conflict Divorce & Parental Alienation, TV & Radio Host

“A must-read for anyone who is navigating or has been through a divorce. The book is insightful, informative, and moving. Jill Coil, Esq. writes with a clear understanding of how you can survive your divorce and reclaim your self-worth.  From deciding whether to leave your marriage to learning how to co-parent and talk to your children, this book covers it all with sound and compassionate advice.  This is the self-help book of the year for divorced individuals.”

BILL EDDY, LCSW, ESQ. - Developer of the New Ways for Families® me & Author of Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone With Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

“This book will make you stronger and more capable even when you’re going through a divorce! It is filled with encouraging words, personal examples (men’s and women’s), lists of considerations, cautions of what not to do, and numerous tips for what to do. It helps you ask all the right questions and helps you to be honest with yourself while also patient with yourself. Written by a divorce attorney who has seen it all, it feels like she’s talking directly to you and giving you your own personal pep talk.”

RANDI KREGER Coauthor of , Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder and Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

“Reading this book will lead you to a better life in general, whether you decide to stay married or to part ways. Along with the practical information you can implement right away—including good advice for those married to narcissists—Jill’s personal stories and those of her clients add richness and relatability to the book.”

DAN CLARK Hall of Fame Speaker & New York Times Best Selling Author of The Art of Significance

“Tragically, we seldom read a book on marriage until our relationship is going south, and we don’t seek legal counsel with a divorce until it gets ugly. Wait no longer! In this masterpiece, Jill shares her wisdom from both sides of the relationship, having butted up to the edge of divorcing her husband, yet resolving the issues together, while teaching her time-tested solutions through years of counseling those filing for divorce as an attorney. Guaranteed, this book can help you save your marriage or end it amicably, giving you and your kids the tools to make happily-ever-after a day at a time proposition!”

GABRIELLE HARTLEY, ESQ. Online divorce mediator & Author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate

“Weaving in personal experiences as well as client reflections, Jill brings heart, soul, and smarts to every page. She breaks down the divorce decision tree and process in a clear, accessible way that’s easy to follow.  Each page hands the reader essential reflections to get through one of life’s most difficult transitions. Whether you’re just contemplating divorce or in the midst of the process, No One Dies from Divorce is a keeper.”

BARBARA MAJESKI - TV personality and lifestyle expert, host of the “Baring It All” Podcast

“Having gone through a divorce myself—while battling cancer—I can attest to the real feelings of loneliness and despair you feel. Jill’s legal experience, together with her empathy and personal relationship experience, bring forth well-rounded, practical, and inspiring tips and advice.”

Frequently Asked Questions

Learn More About My Books!

How do I find happiness after divorcing my partner?

Is your happiness dependent on someone else? If your answer is yes, then that could be the problem. I have found in life that true happiness can only come from learning to love oneself first. Find your inner love and you control your happiness.

Am I in a healthy relationship?

Here are some questions I would be asking myself:

  1. Does my partner enhance my happiness? 
  2. Do they encourage me to grow?  
  3. Am I providing a healthy environment for my partner?  

Ultimately, only you can decide what is and what is not healthy for you.

How do I deal with a Narcissist?

It is all about the power for a Narcissist. In most situations, taking the power away is the only option. Here are some simple recommendations: 

  1. Do not feed the ego,
  2. Do not take responsibility for their emotions, 
  3. Do not use ultimatums,
  4. Never give any negative attention to them in any way. 

Simply put, DO NOT sink to their level.

How do I move on after a divorce?

Divorce will change you, but you decide whether it changes you for the better or for the worse. In Chapter 10, I discuss in detail how to find yourself and move on. Every one of us can not only survive but thrive!

Jill L. Coil

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Awards & Titles
• 2021 WHO’S WHO IN AMERICA
• 2020 -2021 EXPERTISE: BEST DIVORCE LAWYERS IN SANDY, UT
• 2015-2021 LEGAL ELITE
• 2015-2021 SUPER LAWYERS
• 2015-2016 10 BEST CLIENT SATISFACTION; AMERICAN INSTITUTE OF FAMILY LAW ATTORNEYS
• 2016 10 BEST FEMALE ATTORNEYS; AMERICAN INSTITUTE OF FAMILY LAW ATTORNEYS
• BS IN POLITICAL SCIENCE FROM BYU
• SUPERB: TOP DIVORCE ATTORNEY 10.0 AVVO RATING
• EXECUTIVE PRODUCER OF A NEW DOCUSERIES “NO ONE DIES FROM DIVORCE”
• FEATURE/ARTICLE WOMEN IN LAW 2016 IN ATTORNEY AT LAW MAGAZINE
• 2016 LEGAL ELITE: UP AND COMING UTAH BUSINESS
• 2015-2019 AVVO CLIENT’S CHOICE AWARD
• LEAD COUNSEL RATED
• JD FROM TEXAS SOUTHERN UNIVERSITY

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