Rebuilding Self-Confidence after Failure

What it means to create self-compassion


We all know the benefits of having just the right amount of self-confidence—but how many of us actually have it? Self-confidence can mean greater levels of happiness and lower levels of anxiety and depression. However, many of us struggle to rebuild self-confidence following a major setback. Countless studies have shown that there’s a strong link between self-confidence and success. Yet, paradoxically, we tend to beat ourselves up in order to push ourselves to succeed. However, positive psychologists have been researching self-compassion, and the results suggest that it’s a tool that can help you rebuild the confidence you need to succeed.

What Is Self-Compassion?

It’s not uncommon to tell yourself things you wouldn’t say to your worst enemy in response to your mistakes. Since we know that we are fully responsible for our failures, it can be difficult to respond to missteps with kindness. Yet that’s exactly what self-compassion asks you to do. Instead of beating yourself up after a mishap, self-compassion teaches you to accept that failure is a part of personal growth. In short, practicing self-compassion is the act of treating yourself the way you’d treat your loved ones. It’s parenting yourself.